Sexual Reciprocation

[Dick Spit No. 2019-03] In this article I talk briefly about sexual reciprocation with regard to sexual roles and sexual acts.

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Whether you’re in a “fuck-buddy” or a friends-with-benefits relationship, or perhaps in an intimate and committed relationship, I believe it’s always best for each person in the relationship to clearly establish what it is that either person in the relationship will do and won’t do sexually. I prefer to believe that each sexually active person either has certain limits, tolerances, and/or a measure or degree of comfort regarding the sexual role they play as well as the kind of sexual acts they will perform or will have performed on them. Of course, no person should ever be forced or coerced into doing anything sexual which they either do not want to do or which they feel – or would or might feel uncomfortable with doing to someone else or with having done to themselves.

I also believe in giving or allowing a person the opportunity to return the sexual favor I  performed (or which that person had performed on me) and to do so of their own volition or if so asked. I call this sexual reciprocation or sexual reciprocating. In my opinion, mutual reciprocation is an important element in any sexual relationshipThis is where openly communicating with one’s partner comes in; where you and your partner determine what sexual role will be played, by whom, for how long, etc, and/or what sexual act(s) will be allowed or not allowed, and to what extent. You and your partner can determine whether or not the sexual roles can or will be reversed and if certain sexual act(s) can, will, or should be returned in kind. If while having sex, a partner says no to anything, then you should accept that person’s answer and, if necessary, make a mental note to discuss the matter later (assuming your partner is willing), after the sex you’re having is over.

sexreciprocation art-3If you are a “go-with-the-flow” in bed kind of guy and not (what I’d call) an only” kind of guy in bed (with the word “only” meaning that you “only top” or that you “only bottom”), then this article may appeal to you, otherwise it may not. (No shade or disrespect to those gay, bisexual, and SGL (same-gender loving) male readers who are “top only” or “bottom only” kind of guys. To be honest, you wouldn’t be my type.)

As most of you know, when it comes to male-on-male anal coitus (anal intercourse), there are men who either are – or who prefer – the sexual role of being the top (aka the penetrator), or the bottom (aka the penetrated), as well as men who are simply versatile (meaning, with regard to sexual roles, they “go with the flow” during sex…meaning, they can be either the top or the bottom in male-to-male anal coitus). Some men consider themselves as simply sexual versatile when it comes to male-to-male anal coitus while other men who are versatile get a bit more specific when describing their sexual roles. Such versatile men may consider themselves as being a versatile-top. This simply means that while such men enjoy playing the role of the top, sometimes they may prefer to bottom. Other versatile men may consider themselves as being a versatile-bottom. This simply means that while such men enjoy playing the role of the bottom, sometimes they may prefer to top.

As a sexually versatile man myself (versatile bottom, to be specific), reciprocation of sexual roles – like sexual acts, is important to me. In other words, there may be times when I do not want to bottom. Communicating this to an understanding partner – particularly to a partner who himself is or may be versatile (or specifically is a versatile-top or a versatile-bottom), can help keep the relationship healthy and strong.

sexreciprocation art-1Reciprocation of the sexual role and/or with a sexual act simply involves each person in the relationship knowing and understanding the desires, needs, and feelings of their partner as well as each person in that relationship being thoughtful, considerate, and patient. Each partner in the relationship should try to express his (or her) point of view regarding any matter of sex; doing so wisely (and preferably) long before ever allowing four, six, eight, twelve or more months to pass in the relationship. Few people neither like nor appreciate late-in-the-relationship sexual surprises. Whether your sexual relationship with a person is classified as being that of “fuck-buddy”, a “friend-with-benefits” or one that’s an intimate commitment, there’s never any need for anyone in the relationship to be in need nor unhappy because to be such means that the relationship is not a healthy relationship.

Watch the 15-minute YouTube (safe-for-work) gay video short posted below called Versátil (Versatile). In the film, you’ll meet Alex and Hugo, a handsome gay couple. Versátil is a foreign-language video but has English subtitles. I don’t know how long the video will be on YouTube so I suggest you watch it as soon as you can. (If you can’t see the video embedded in this article then either click here or click the video title above.)

I encourage you to share your comments about the video and/or your own personal experiences related to sexual reciprocation in the comments section. (Thanks!)

– Renzo

Perhaps You Can Relate…

[Dick Spit No. 2019-01] I’m hoping 2019 will be the year of my first actual/serious date in a decade. This random sex thing – while often fun and pleasing, may sooner or later take a toll on this sexy, healthy, middle-aged body. I mean, fuck; it’s 3:48 am on a Monday morning as I begin writing this, having already tweeted and Facebook-posted the heavily abbreviated, censored version of what happened last night/this early morning.

perhaps you can relateThis past weekend was indeed a long for me. I had just flown back from Philly this past Saturday after attending my mom’s funeral held the Thursday before. Yesterday (Sunday) afternoon I did my radio show (which, after live broadcasting, often leaves me exhausted). I then went home, had dinner, and had planned to simply chill in my recliner, watching whatever was on TV until I was drowsy and ready to go to bed.

Sometime before midnight, I get a call from a former fuck-buddy of mine. Damn. Looking at the name on the caller ID and seeing the name “Kevyn J.”, it hit me that I had neither seen nor heard from Kevyn (“Kev” for short) in years. I’d always assumed he had moved on.
[S/N: In my experience, fuck buddies, particularly some older ones, always get out of the “game” of being a fuck-buddy as they move on to marriage or to some other committed relationship type situation. It’s no biggie. Over the years, I’ve long since gotten used to my fuck-buddies moving on without leaving so much as a word or hint to me that it might be weeks, months, or perhaps years before we’d again hook up – if ever, or at least again see each other. Considering this, I always like to fuck my sex partners as though sex with that person would be the last time I’d have sex with that person (because it just might be).]

I had half a mind to ignore Kevyn’s call, thinking, “Well, I’ll be damned. Where the fuck has his fine sweet ass been all these years? Perhaps it was on instinct that I decided to answer his call. perhaps you can relate (gif1)It’s not as though I get sex that often – especially from a guy with whom I still have fond memories – and would often jack off to those memories – of us having some damn good, hot man-sex. I answered the call and, just as I suspected, Kevyn was indeed shamelessly making a late-night booty call. All he said to me was, “Hey-y-y-y, Renzo! Whassup? I’m in town. Mind if I come over?” I chuckled to myself as I noticed my dick getting hard, precum already oozing from the tip. Yep; this guy Kevyn (who’s about fifteen years younger than me) was only one of a few dudes whose fellow masculine,“alpha male” type demeanor, his willingness to “go with the flow” in bed, and who readily (most thankfully) reciprocated any sex act I did to him – to say nothing of his excellent personal hygiene practices, was on my list of favorite fuck-buddies.

I have always held (and still hold) a strong physical and sexual attraction to Kevyn. He is very good-looking, has a beautiful body (at least his is my preferred body type – the kind which I unapologetically reflect in many of the images I post on Masculine Perspectives), and always smelled good. Guys like Kevyn have always had a unique sexual effect on me; the telltale signs being my rock-hard erection and strings of precum leaking out of my cock whenever he’d text or call asking whether he could come over. Though I might be tired as fuck (as I was last night from my recent trip home and the weekend), it was always difficult for me to say “no” to him; something which goes back several years when we first started our fuck-buddy relationship. And, as tired as I was last night, I couldn’t say no to him. I can’t explain it, but my body always seems to find the energy to have sex.

Anyway, I said to Kevyn, “Sure, man; come on over.” Well, that cocky mutherfucker just knew I was going to say “yes” because before I could finish my sentence, he immediately said, “Already on my way. See you in ten!” perhaps you can relate_rn's dildo, 7inchI hung up then went to my bedroom to remove the comforter and throw pillows from the bed. Next, from the nightstand I took out the half empty box of condoms – checking the expiration date, then took out the lube and cock rings and placed all of that on top. I took out my 7-inch lifelike dildo, too – though rarely do I use my dildo when having sex. However, since I bought it several months ago, I wanted to show it off to Kev.
[S/N: My dildo (pictured) is strictly for my personal pleasure when I’m exceptionally horny and the “real thing”– like Kev’s dick for example, isn’t available to satisfy my needs.]

I had showered several hours earlier so I was ready… ass-wise, for sex. Based on my many previous sexual experiences with Kevyn, I figured (and found that I had figured correctly) that he’d be ready…ass-wise, too. We both are very much into eating ass (aka anilingus) and that’s always a good thing! The moment Kevyn walked in my place we kissed and caressed each other like we were old lovers before pulling away to go sit in the living room and chat for a bit. We enjoyed a couple of glasses of white wine before Kevyn leaned over to kiss me and begin making out. He pulled off my robe to find me already naked underneath….dick hard, leaking precum. perhaps you can relate_toe lickHe leaned down to lick the precum from my dick before putting his lips around the head then went on to swallow the entire shaft, sucking my dick for all its worth. Feeling like I was about to cum, I gently push Kevyn’s head off my dick so I could pull off his shirt, jeans (he wasn’t wearing underwear), and socks. I took one of Kev’s beautiful sweat-moist feet in my hand to massage and suck on his toes. I don’t have a foot fetish but am a sucker, so to speak, for attractive guys who have (what I perceive), are nice, well-pedicured feet. As I reached up to begin sucking Kevyn’s dick, he grabbed my hand, saying “Let’s take this to bed.” (You can use your imagination regarding what happened next.)

Roughly three hours later, after the great sex, Kevyn goes to the bathroom to wash his dick and balls. He shouts out to me (who’s busy drafting this blog article) in the bedroom, “Hey man… I hate to play “hit it and run” but I gotta get back to my brother’s place. I’m flying out tomorrow afternoon.”
Geez. 
Late-night booty calls, particularly those held the day before the work week starts, can be something else. I’m usually off work on most Mondays and had hoped Kevyn would stay with me until morning. Fuck how I miss spending mornings with him. We’d always have some very hot sex in the morning, often started by whichever one of us had woken up first and began doing something sexual – and sexy – to the other as he slept. Oh, yeah…morning sex can often be the best sex! Oh well; so much for me getting any of that from him this time around. *sigh*
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Kevyn just left here a few minutes ago. It’s now 4:21 am on this second Monday of the new year. I should be tired but… I’m notI’m fuckin’ horny again! After I close and publish this article, I’m going back to bed and jack off before I go to sleep. I’ll lay my naked ass in the cum-damp spot on my bed, among the many blond pubic hairs Kevyn left behind on the sheets. As I jack off, I’ll repeatedly sniff the same pillow I propped under Kevyn’s ass so that I could better eat and fuck that tight, hairy hole of his. The odor of man-funk – that is, the combined male pheromones from our armpits, scrotums, ass funk, and the cum odor from both Kev’s body and mine own still linger in my bedroom. All those funky odors serve as an aphrodisiac and certainly must be the cause for why I’m horny. Fuck, how I wish Kevyn were back here...now.
*sigh*

Listen to me carry on. I may need to chill a bit with these late-night weekend fuck-buddy booty calls.

– Renzo

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