LGBT Pride: Crushing [Gay] Stereotypes

Many straight (heterosexual) people, as well as a number of gay (homosexual) and bisexual people too, have certain stereotypical ideas, beliefs. Many from both camps even hold tall, often ridiculous expectations about how a gay man is suppose to look (in terms of his physical appearance and with his choice and coordination of attire); what he is suppose to sound like (in terms of his voice and voice inflection); how he is suppose to behave (in terms of his behavior and mannerisms, et al); and how he is suppose to have a certain level of knowledge and/or awareness of certain so-called “well-known” things and/or people in and about mainstream society (i.e., the entertainment world and overall popular culture).

The three-and-a-half-minute long (3:25) BuzzFeed video clip in this post [below] is here to help remind readers that simply because a man is gay it doesn’t necessarily mean that he automatically fits some idea or some known or expected stereotype of what general society assumes or wants to presume to be a man who is homosexual (gay).

On that note, I want to add that this video can also be representative of men who are bisexual. Even though nothing in the video makes one mention of such men, I felt that with myself being bisexual, I needed to let readers of this blog know how the video can relate to men who aren’t necessarily gay. Many bisexual men and many heterosexual (straight) men who regularly or occasionally have sex with men but who aren’t innately gay/homosexual nor identify as bisexual yet identify as a MSM male (men/males who have sex with men/males), tend to befriend, have sex with, date and/or get into committed relationships with men who are gay. Bisexual men and MSM men are also considered by society as being “non-straight“/”non-heterosexual” men.

There are many of bisexual men and MSM men who neither do everything stereotypical of gay men nor know everything that a gay man is [stereotypically] presumed or is expected to know in terms of fashion, pop culture, et al. We’re just regular guys being ourselves – just like each of the guys in the BuzzFeed video clip is describing about himself. (Besides, many people in general society already hold enough ignorance and misunderstanding about bisexuality. It’s an ignorance and misunderstanding which, unfortunately, has given birth to a number of bad stereotypes about bisexuality and which bisexual men and women often have to contend.)

The bottom line: the LGBTQ+ “community” is one that is legionwe are everywhere!
As such, we come from every background known and unknown to general society, and we come in every skin color, from every ethnic group, and from many cultures. We also come in every age group, from every sociopolitical and/or religious and non-religious mindset. In short, LGBTQ+ people come from every corner and crack of world society. We “non-straights”/non-heterosexuals simply are all not going to fit  at least not neatly, into some limited minded person’s or social group’s idea or expectation stereotypical or otherwise, of what a non-straight/non-heterosexual human individual “should” look like and/or “should” act like. That simply is not going to happen. The sooner people in both the heterosexual and the non-heterosexual communities realize this fact, the sooner we all will be able to better get along. Hopefully that situation will occur because it would mean that we have come to understand, appreciate, accept, and respect each other and our respective differences.

Watch/listen to the captioned text video. If you have an open and logical mind you should get the point of the message expressed by its participants. Better yet, you might be able to personally identify with one if not all of them. I certainly do!

– Renzo

A Word About Facebook’s Double Standards

This video from LADbible appeared in my Facebook newsfeed today. While I found it both interesting and fun to watch, I couldn’t help but shake my head at the double standards Facebook has regarding their so-called “safe community” policy. Frankly, I’m a bit surprised this video was allowed to be posted (thus the reason for this article).

You see, I’ve always believed Facebook’s Community Standards policy regarding nudity and the depiction of sexual images as having too much ambiguity, with many parts of it being utter nonsense and unrealistic bullshit. I say this having seen – and how I continue to see, how that “necessary evil” social media network [Facebook] will allow to be posted on its network, some things of a relatively harmless sexual nature (like the video above) but not others of the very same kind.

I’ve long been of the opinion that someone at Facebook Admin – as well as far too many prudish users of that accursed network (perhaps someone reading this article), seem fearful of any image of the human penis (aka dick, cock, schlong, et al); particularly one that is erect (a natural occurrence of that sexual organ of sexual pleasure and necessary tool of human procreation), and most certainly fearful of any black-skinned dick that’s either flaccid or erect. Yes, I said it! Let’s just be real about that! It’s why – after three times of having been thrown in Facebook jail* – with zero opportunity given or allowed for grievance against that action, I decided to take down my “Masculine Perspectives” Facebook page last year (2017); a decision I’ve never regretted and which gave birth to the very fine blog you all see here.

– Renzo

[*Facebook jail is the slang yet disparaging term used or referred to by Facebook users to describe the “place” or rather the action Facebook takes as punishment against a user of its network. Facebook Admin takes such action against a user for having violated (in Facebook’s judgment or because Facebook admin happened to agree with another user’s report) some aspect of Facebook’s Community Standards policy. That user is blocked or prohibited by Facebook from posting, sharing, and commenting on the social media network for a length of time which may range from a few days to several weeks, or perhaps permanently, as deemed by Facebook.]