Being both Masculine and Alpha

_RFX, Renzo nude, goatee, armpit, pierced nippleThere are pockets in U.S. society which either want or would prefer that people look down on a guy who is masculine and/or who has an “alpha” type personality; as though being one or being both is supposed to be some negative, bad, and perhaps dangerous thing. Well, fuck people who either think like that or want to believe that sort of thing! It’s not my fault that such people can neither understand nor accept the kind of men (like me) who happened to be both.

Men like us will neither be guilted into nor shamed for being who we are. We will never feel obligated to somehow “tone down” our measure of masculinity, masculine demeanor, nor any “alpha-type” personality we may happened to have due to the sensitive and/or insecure nature or feelings of other people. Furthermore, I am only qualified to assess and take comfort in and with my own level or measure of masculinity and personality type. It’s never my place to assess and/or judge that of another man. I believe society would be better off if they’d simply follow my position on this.

I recently tweeted this:
RFX Tweet (12APR2019)-3Among a host of other things I attribute to the “me” that I am, my self-confidence, both my psychological stability and sexual security and comfort, my leadership and managerial skills, my strength, patience, love, and concern as a father, how I choose or prefer to interact with other people, my management of stress and personal health, and my very ability to live, travel, and survive in this country and in the world itself, is all based simply and exactly to my being – and remaining – the kind of person that I am and have long been. I’m good with that! Any psychologically and/or emotionally insecure, fearful, and/or intimidated motherfucker who doesn’t like it will simply have to deal with it because the man that I am will not change for their benefit. 

– Renzo

Regarding the Tumblr Situation

CT with laptopPREFACE: Fellas, please forgive me for this late response, particularly to those of you who were kind to send me inquiries either in the comment section of Masculine Perspectives, via text message, or a private message on Facebook and Twitter regarding concerns about my Tumblr blog, Male Oriented Erotica & Perspective (MOEP) (www.male-oep.tumblr.com). I humbly thank you for and appreciate your concerns. I have been ill lately – and, to make matters worse for me, my ability to type anything lengthy has, for the past several days and until recently, been limited due to me suffering from carpal tunnel syndrome in my right hand. I explain the latter in this blog article published on Masculine Perspectives. Now, to briefly answer the personally appreciated question of concern about my Tumblr blog, Male Oriented Erotica & Perspective (MOEP), the older sister blog of this blog, Masculine Perspectives.

No, gentlemen…I have no “set-in-stone” nor any firm plans for MOEP. My guess is either Tumblr will continue (as it has been doing since their announcement a few weeks earlier) flagging adult content that has been posted and/or which has been previously posted on MOEP; content which Tumblr’s software algorithms – and/or the human eyes of their staff – determine to be in violation of their precious (and now prudish)revised Community Standards (CS) policy.

For those who either don’t blog on Tumblr or visit Tumblr, I am referring to a recent revision to Tumblr’s Community Service (CS) policy which – as of today (December 17, 2018), now prohibits and/or flags any and all “adult content” (aka NSFW – “not safe for work”) which either is presently existing or newly posted on its network. According to Tumblr, blogs on the Tumblr network having such content will be taken from public view and access – as in, taken off their internet web in such a way Tumblr deems fit, and (supposedly) made visually available only to the account user’s Tumblr account blog/page (which of course I think is pointless in and of itself). As of this writing, I see Tumblr has already taken down MOEP from the web and made it only accessible to me. It may also be accessible to other Tumblr bloggers but I don’t know. I can see it when I log on to my Tumblr dashboard – and, as of this writing, also see other blogs with adult content when I log on to Tumblr. I don’t pretend to remotely understand how or what exactly Tumblr is doing, especially considering that I’m still getting notices from Tumblr that other Tumblr bloggers are liking and re-blogging content already posted on MOEP. Still, I see that my browser links and tabbed pages to MOEP show that the connection to MOEP has been removed. Oh well, so much for that!

Flyin' Solo-49There are a number of bloggers who had been posting notices (on both Tumblr and Twitter) which offer Tumblr bloggers the option of joining some Tumblr-like network that’s supposed to be Tumblr-like in every way (sans the restriction of adult content, of course). I don’t know which of those alternative networks to choose and transfer my MOEP data and I hesitate to list any of the suggestions I’ve found or received in this article. (I wouldn’t want you to blame me for either visiting and/or migrating your Tumblr blog data content to a bad site!) However, if YOU, dear reader, have or know of a good and reliable Tumblr-alternative network site…one (or some) which offers the safe and efficient data migration of the data/content on a person’s Tumblr blog, then feel free to share that information in the comments section of this article. (I – and other readers of this article humbly THANK YOU in advance, especially if the migration works and is successful!) I’ll check out the suggested network site(s) but likely won’t immediately migrate MOEP (assuming at all that I can migrate) my data to that network nor will I subscribe to it until I see how well and adequate that website is running.

In the meantime, I’ll probably keep my Tumblr account open and active (which allows me to have access to MOEP) but I will disconnect the WordPress connection between Masculine Perspectives and MOEP/Tumblr and remove the Tumblr share button from this blog. With MOEP no longer accessible on the public web (as I understand that to be the case), I have no desire to post or share anything else on or to MOEP while it is with Tumblr.

At this point, I’m not going to fret much over this whole Tumblr thing very much. Yes, I’ve got a strong opinion about the whole matter (which I’ll probably share later) but the bottom line to all of the Tumblr shit is that there’s nothing I can do about four years of hard work on my Tumblr hobby being taken out of public view. At least I have Masculine Perspectives; although while WordPressCommunity Standards policy allows for adult content, that blogging service provider does not allow images which depict sexual acts. MP Promo UseThis is why you won’t see sexual acts like fellatio (aka blow jobs), dudes jacking off (masturbating), nor dudes fucking [other dudes] et al, featured on this blog. (However, Masculine Perspectives does have images which are merely sexually suggestive of those particular acts.) Besides, I had never intended for Masculine Perspectives to carry that kind of content anyway since (until recently) I was saving that sort of thing for posting on my Tumblr blog, MOEP. Now, should WordPress ever get a hair up its ass and decide to go the way of Tumblr…meaning, should WordPress also decide to prohibit adult content on its network, then I will consider closing this blog and ask for a refund of whatever money is left on my paid subscription. I’m just sick of all the prudish censorship and the so-called “safe environment” bullshit!

Fellas, I’ve got much more to say about this evil Tumblr Community Standards and so-called “safe environment” situation but the nerves in my right hand and wrist (yes, the very hand I use to jack my dick) has been tingling like a mutherfucker in the last few minutes (again, due to carpal tunnel syndrome), so I’ll end this article here.

All my best to my fellow Tumblr bloggers!
(And a huge and appreciative THANK YOU is given to those persons who recently came from Tumblr and decided to add Masculine Perspectives to their list of blogs to follow.)

– Renzo

LGBT Pride: Crushing [Gay] Stereotypes

Many straight (heterosexual) people, as well as a number of gay (homosexual) and bisexual people too, have certain stereotypical ideas, beliefs. Many from both camps even hold tall, often ridiculous expectations about how a gay man is suppose to look (in terms of his physical appearance and with his choice and coordination of attire); what he is suppose to sound like (in terms of his voice and voice inflection); how he is suppose to behave (in terms of his behavior and mannerisms, et al); and how he is suppose to have a certain level of knowledge and/or awareness of certain so-called “well-known” things and/or people in and about mainstream society (i.e., the entertainment world and overall popular culture).

The three-and-a-half-minute long (3:25) BuzzFeed video clip in this post [below] is here to help remind readers that simply because a man is gay it doesn’t necessarily mean that he automatically fits some idea or some known or expected stereotype of what general society assumes or wants to presume to be a man who is homosexual (gay).

On that note, I want to add that this video can also be representative of men who are bisexual. Even though nothing in the video makes one mention of such men, I felt that with myself being bisexual, I needed to let readers of this blog know how the video can relate to men who aren’t necessarily gay. Many bisexual men and many heterosexual (straight) men who regularly or occasionally have sex with men but who aren’t innately gay/homosexual nor identify as bisexual yet identify as a MSM male (men/males who have sex with men/males), tend to befriend, have sex with, date and/or get into committed relationships with men who are gay. Bisexual men and MSM men are also considered by society as being “non-straight“/”non-heterosexual” men.

There are many of bisexual men and MSM men who neither do everything stereotypical of gay men nor know everything that a gay man is [stereotypically] presumed or is expected to know in terms of fashion, pop culture, et al. We’re just regular guys being ourselves – just like each of the guys in the BuzzFeed video clip is describing about himself. (Besides, many people in general society already hold enough ignorance and misunderstanding about bisexuality. It’s an ignorance and misunderstanding which, unfortunately, has given birth to a number of bad stereotypes about bisexuality and which bisexual men and women often have to contend.)

The bottom line: the LGBTQ+ “community” is one that is legionwe are everywhere!
As such, we come from every background known and unknown to general society, and we come in every skin color, from every ethnic group, and from many cultures. We also come in every age group, from every sociopolitical and/or religious and non-religious mindset. In short, LGBTQ+ people come from every corner and crack of world society. We “non-straights”/non-heterosexuals simply are all not going to fit  at least not neatly, into some limited minded person’s or social group’s idea or expectation stereotypical or otherwise, of what a non-straight/non-heterosexual human individual “should” look like and/or “should” act like. That simply is not going to happen. The sooner people in both the heterosexual and the non-heterosexual communities realize this fact, the sooner we all will be able to better get along. Hopefully that situation will occur because it would mean that we have come to understand, appreciate, accept, and respect each other and our respective differences.

Watch/listen to the captioned text video. If you have an open and logical mind you should get the point of the message expressed by its participants. Better yet, you might be able to personally identify with one if not all of them. I certainly do!

– Renzo