NOTE: This is Part 1 of a 3-part series. [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-1]
Recently, my blogging friend Roger P. posted an article on his blog “From Top 2 Bottom Blog” discussing the subject of glory holes. (Click Glory Holes! to read Roger’s article.) At the same time I, too had been in the middle of writing an article on that same subject. This is that 3-part article.
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The word “glory hole” (sometimes spelled “gloryhole”) is a sexual slang word. It refers to a hole found or intentionally made in a wall, partition, closet door, curtain, or faux (i.e. false, artificial)ceiling or ceiling tile specifically for the purpose of either spying on someone (an act of voyeurism) engaging in sexual activity such as masturbation, fellatio (oral sex), anal copulation, and/or anilingus (aka ass licking/“ass eating”) with someone (usually men)who is on the other side of the hole in the wall, partition, closet door, or ceiling. Glory holes are often found in men’s public lavatory/restrooms stalls, and in a number of remaining adult video arcade booths.
I see little to practically nothing “glorious” about a gloryhole. I have long known and understood the history of and the reasons why glory holes existed and still exist. I’ve seen my share of them in various parts of the U.S. where I either lived or traveled, as well as in other parts of the world where I’ve travelled. I’ve also seen gloryholes in some male restrooms in college buildings, in a few male restrooms on military bases, and on a few [U.S. Navy] ships where I was either stationed or had visited. I’ve also seen gloryholes in the restrooms of several gay clubs (back in the late 1970s and in the 1980s), and in a number of adult bookstores which had “private” video booths in the back of the store during that era.
I fear and have always feared using glory holes. I have never wanted and was never brave enough to stick beloved penis/dick/cock through one. I would never pull my anus/butthole up against a glory hole to have it licked or fucked. You see, I have what I’d call “gloryholephobia”. Now, I’m not sure if either the word “gloryholephobia” or the phobia type itself exists or whether it’s used anywhere. As far as I know, I may have just created it! I define gloryholephobia as: the fear of what might happen to my beloved penis if I ever stuck it through any hole without knowing who or what kind of person – or thing – was on the other side of said hole. I simply fear having my one and only beautiful, precious, well-serving, pleasuring-giving & receiving cock infected with some kind of virus or disease, of having it bitten or chopped off by someone’s strong jaws and sharp teeth, or of having it amputated by an ax, machete, or sharp blade – or perhaps by some device resembling some kind of guillotine that’s made exclusively for chopping off penises. I also fear what might happen to my anus/butthole if I were to stick up against some mystery hole to have it licked and/or fucked. I realize this all sounds crazy and perhaps a bit funny to some readers but it isn’t to me; and how I feel is all that matters. I have held such fears ever since I first learned of glory holes then first saw one as a young teen. I’ll never forget asking myself at the time, “Who would dare take a chance and stick their dick through a hole like that?” Anyway, forty-five years is a long time to have such a fear … that is, to have “gloryholephobia”; but hey; my penis is still attached to me, is still working quite well, and has never once been infected by any person nor by any virus. My anus/butt hole has always been healthy, intact (and tight) too simply because I am always aware of who or what gets near it and who or what is inserted inside of it. Furthermore, I simply do not ever want my beloved cock touched, sucked (nor my ass fucked) by a stranger; someone whose face, mouth, and teeth I haven’t first seen and have determined as being “okay” for me to insert my dick in or through. And I’ve never been the kind of person who has been so desperate as to want his anus/butthole licked/eaten and/or fucked by a stranger. I’ll pass on all of that, thank-you!
As far as I’m concerned (and I remind readers that this is strictly my opinion), I find the very idea of a man sticking his [supposedly] beloved, precious erect or flaccid penis/dick/cock through any mysterious hole – with the expectation of getting it sucked by anonymous male or female person or for that penis to fuck the mouth, vagina, anus/butthole of an anonymous person on the other side of that hole, as being potentially dangerous. I find it risky and dangerous health-wise and I find that act an idiotic thing to do. The same potential risks of danger to health and/or physical self applies to any man who sticks his anus/butthole up against a hole in a partition or wall, or (if the partition is high enough off the floor) below that partition with the expectation of getting his asshole licked by a tongue (a sex act knownas ‘anilingus’ or “ass eating”) and/or fucked by a penis (or some other object). Regardless of whether the participant is playing the role of the giver or the role of the receiverof such sexual favors, that man would have to at least hope (or would have stupidly assumed) that either the anonymous cock or anonymous tongue he is physically encountering isn’t dirty or bleeding, or is diseased, infected or contaminated in some way.
Gloryholephobia: Two Exceptions –
First Exception: My gloryholephobia would not extend to penises which are stuck through my side of the glory hole. All I might be willing to do in such cases is touch the guy’s dick and jerk it off (masturbate the penis). However, I would make it very clear to that guy that I have no intention of ever putting my tongue or lips on his dick (which means that I would not suck it; I have that much self-control over my lust.) That man can then decide what he wants to do from that point, although I doubt he’d want to keep his dick stuck through the hole after hearing my conditions.
Second Exception: My gloryholephobia also would not extend to someone whom I happen to know – and like – such as a fuck buddy or an open-minded straight (heterosexual) friend of mine who occasionally has sex with men. That person and I would both have to want and decide to do the “glory hole thing” simply for kicks; that is, with just the two of us jerking or sucking off each other’s dick. Whether through a glory hole or under the toilet stall partition, I would never engage in anilingus nor in anal sex with a guy – not even with my fuck buddy or straight friend. Again, any other sexual activity in a restroom would be between me and my fuck buddy or friend and never with a stranger.
Public Restroom Sex –
While I wouldn’t engage in glory hole sex, I am not implying that I’ve never had public restroom sex of some kind – which would include masturbation. Solo masturbation is a sexual act since it considered sex with one’s self. And so yes, I have indeed masturbated – and left my DNA (e.g. semen/cum residue), in a number of public restrooms more times and in more places than I can or even care to remember. I’m sure just about every sexually healthy male has masturbated in a public restroom at least once in his life. (Read the Masculine Perspectives article “Doing a Nasty Thing in the Men’s Room” [Dick Spit No. 2017-03])
Aside from solo and/or partner masturbation in a public restroom, I am not into having any anonymous nor “mystery suck and/or fuck” sex in those places, particularly not the kind of sex offered by some stranger through a glory hole. If you haven’t yet guess, I – or rather my dick and asshole, avoid gloryholes. My public restroom sexual experiences has only been limited to sexual foreplay; that is, kissing and feeling it upmen whom I either had met and talked with for a while, or with men whom I already knew and with whom I were already friends and/or fuck buddies. Such foreplay was with guys (and would still be with guys) whose whole physical body I can see, happened to like, and would find attractive. I’d want to be able to touch and maybe even smell the scent of that man’s body. While standing at a few trough urinals – still found in some pubs and bars in the U.S. and in other countries), I have kissed, jacked off (masturbated) and even held and “massaged” the pissing dick of some men. (I love the feel of a guy’s flaccid penis getting hard/erect in my hand as I held it.) The sexual foreplay in which I participated always led to that guy and I heading outside, either to the back of the building we were in, or to his car or mine. We might continue the sexual foreplay or get into having all-out sex. Better (and safer) yet, we’d force ourselves to stop messing around so that we can drive to his place or mine to pick up where we left off.
Public Restroom Particular –
I have always been particular of where I have sex. And while normally I would never have anonymous sex in a public restroom, I have the exceptions noted earlier. If the dude is someone I know then there are things I’d have to consider before agreeing to have sex of any kind in a public restroom. For example, I won’t ever mess around with any guy who just got done defecating (taking a shit) or puking up his guts (vomiting). I won’t mess around in a men’s restroom that has the odor of piss or shit, no matter how faint or strong that odor is. I won’t mess around in any warm or humid restroom, nor in restrooms having poor ventilation. I prefer any restroom be cool in temperature, and have a couple of windows or other means of ventilation.
My ideal men’s [public] restroom is always clean, a bit cool temperature-wise, and looks and smells very nice. Such places do exist. Such restrooms are found in many fine hotels, large corporate buildings, and federal government buildings. I’ve never seen any of those restrooms have glory holes, although a number of them have a certain amount of space between the bottom of the toilet stall partition and the floor. The space allows just enough room for a guy to squat down, stick his dick under the partition, and have the guy on the other side reach down to jack him off, suck him off, or be ass fucked. In such places I’d say I’m more of a “jack-him-off-under-the-partition” kind of guy; one who’d prefer – and insist to that dude on the other side (whom I would first have to know) that we make out and/or suck dick in the last stall in that restroom; the larger area stall that’s reserved for disabled and wheel-chaired users. A number of men’s restroom in large corporate and federal government buildings have at least two such stalls.
Once again to be clear, as far as all-out sex in any restroom is concerned I do not engage and choose not to engage in public restroom oral, anal, nor vaginal sex with anonymous people…strangers. Frankly, I heavily frown upon it. I simply have personal health and hygiene concerns and reasons for that. I would never kneel, squat, nor lay down on some nasty, piss, cum, spit and/or fecal matter covered or stained restroom floor simply to put my dick under the partition. Masturbatory sex – that is, jacking/jerking off another man (or participating in a mutual masturbation/jack off session with that man) would be the only kind of public restroom sex in which I would engage with an anonymous person.
(S/N: Though I’m bisexual, I often don’t want females jacking me off because it always takes them too long to get me to cum!)
If you haven’t yet realized it, I tend to be judgmental of those persons who initiate and/or engage in public restroom or interstate expressway rest stop anonymous sex. Mind you, I am not against the act of sex itself. No. I am simply against any and all intentionally careless, reckless, and potentially dangerous practices of sex. I feel this way because for decades, it’s been well documented as fact that anonymous partner sex acts have the great potential of either one or all of the participants transmitting or contracting venereal infections and/or diseases (aka sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or sexual transmitted diseases (STDs)). I simply am not down with that sort of thing.
And now, this humorous break…
This 3-part series continues here…
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 2) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-2]
… and concludes here…
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 3) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-3]