Sunday’s Sin (35)

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A simple yet typical “Sunday’s Sin” illustration of what many Sunday mornings are like after having (what turned out to be) a very wild night in bed with that random hot dude you picked up at the local pub the night before. There you both decided that getting a hotel room was best. Why? Because should the sex get rough (which it did) neither of you would have to worry about leaving a mess or worse, cleaning up that mess after the sex.

Yep; you guys left a huge mess in the room; with the bed sheets stained with sweat, spit, lube, cum and piss, a few brown streaks on the pillows, and several used condoms and condom wrappers thrown all over on the floor. And that bathroom! Ugh! Only men who have [wild] sex with men are known to leave such signs of male homosexual activity. In the morning, you guys saw the mess you made but just thought to yourselves, “Surely room service staff has seen this kind of thing before so… fuck it!

Oh fuck yeah. Last night with…him…was awesome as fuck! And, if he’s still around in the morning (which each of you hope), perhaps the two of you can negotiate hooking up again; either at the same hotel or better yet, at his place.
Only time will tell.

(Speech balloons by Renzo).

Sexual Reciprocation

[Dick Spit No. 2019-03] In this article I talk briefly about sexual reciprocation with regard to sexual roles and sexual acts.

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Whether you’re in a “fuck-buddy” or a friends-with-benefits relationship, or perhaps in an intimate and committed relationship, I believe it’s always best for each person in the relationship to clearly establish what it is that either person in the relationship will do and won’t do sexually. I prefer to believe that each sexually active person either has certain limits, tolerances, and/or a measure or degree of comfort regarding the sexual role they play as well as the kind of sexual acts they will perform or will have performed on them. Of course, no person should ever be forced or coerced into doing anything sexual which they either do not want to do or which they feel – or would or might feel uncomfortable with doing to someone else or with having done to themselves.

I also believe in giving or allowing a person the opportunity to return the sexual favor I  performed (or which that person had performed on me) and to do so of their own volition or if so asked. I call this sexual reciprocation or sexual reciprocating. In my opinion, mutual reciprocation is an important element in any sexual relationshipThis is where openly communicating with one’s partner comes in; where you and your partner determine what sexual role will be played, by whom, for how long, etc, and/or what sexual act(s) will be allowed or not allowed, and to what extent. You and your partner can determine whether or not the sexual roles can or will be reversed and if certain sexual act(s) can, will, or should be returned in kind. If while having sex, a partner says no to anything, then you should accept that person’s answer and, if necessary, make a mental note to discuss the matter later (assuming your partner is willing), after the sex you’re having is over.

sexreciprocation art-3If you are a “go-with-the-flow” in bed kind of guy and not (what I’d call) an only” kind of guy in bed (with the word “only” meaning that you “only top” or that you “only bottom”), then this article may appeal to you, otherwise it may not. (No shade or disrespect to those gay, bisexual, and SGL (same-gender loving) male readers who are “top only” or “bottom only” kind of guys. To be honest, you wouldn’t be my type.)

As most of you know, when it comes to male-on-male anal coitus (anal intercourse), there are men who either are – or who prefer – the sexual role of being the top (aka the penetrator), or the bottom (aka the penetrated), as well as men who are simply versatile (meaning, with regard to sexual roles, they “go with the flow” during sex…meaning, they can be either the top or the bottom in male-to-male anal coitus). Some men consider themselves as simply sexual versatile when it comes to male-to-male anal coitus while other men who are versatile get a bit more specific when describing their sexual roles. Such versatile men may consider themselves as being a versatile-top. This simply means that while such men enjoy playing the role of the top, sometimes they may prefer to bottom. Other versatile men may consider themselves as being a versatile-bottom. This simply means that while such men enjoy playing the role of the bottom, sometimes they may prefer to top.

As a sexually versatile man myself (versatile bottom, to be specific), reciprocation of sexual roles – like sexual acts, is important to me. In other words, there may be times when I do not want to bottom. Communicating this to an understanding partner – particularly to a partner who himself is or may be versatile (or specifically is a versatile-top or a versatile-bottom), can help keep the relationship healthy and strong.

sexreciprocation art-1Reciprocation of the sexual role and/or with a sexual act simply involves each person in the relationship knowing and understanding the desires, needs, and feelings of their partner as well as each person in that relationship being thoughtful, considerate, and patient. Each partner in the relationship should try to express his (or her) point of view regarding any matter of sex; doing so wisely (and preferably) long before ever allowing four, six, eight, twelve or more months to pass in the relationship. Few people neither like nor appreciate late-in-the-relationship sexual surprises. Whether your sexual relationship with a person is classified as being that of “fuck-buddy”, a “friend-with-benefits” or one that’s an intimate commitment, there’s never any need for anyone in the relationship to be in need nor unhappy because to be such means that the relationship is not a healthy relationship.

Watch the 15-minute YouTube (safe-for-work) gay video short posted below called Versátil (Versatile). In the film, you’ll meet Alex and Hugo, a handsome gay couple. Versátil is a foreign-language video but has English subtitles. I don’t know how long the video will be on YouTube so I suggest you watch it as soon as you can. (If you can’t see the video embedded in this article then either click here or click the video title above.)

I encourage you to share your comments about the video and/or your own personal experiences related to sexual reciprocation in the comments section. (Thanks!)

– Renzo

Male Masturbation: Appreciating Both Hands

**NOTE** This is the first in a new and continuous Masculine Perspectives blog series on male masturbation.

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[Dick Spit No. 2018-04] I am right-handed. That means that most personally intimate things are done using with my right hand rather than my left. When I want to pleasure myself, I use either my left or my right hand as needed, depending on what I want or have to do. However when masturbating (aka jacking off or jerking off), I always use my right hand. (Keep reading; I break all of this down later.)

Due to having carpal tunnel syndrome (CTS) issues for the past several days, I’ve had to wear a damn hand & wrist orthosis (aka a support brace). Of course, wearing that thing hindered my ability to jack off with my right hand. (Mind you, I never wear the orthosis when I have to take a shit. I’m just glad the CTS doesn’t flare up when it’s time for me to wipe my ass! LOL!😊)

Typing anything on my laptop while wearing the orthosis had become quite a tiresome chore so I rarely did any of that, seeing that whenever I draft a blog article or leave a post or comment on social media sites like Facebook, I tend to write more than just a few words. When I drafted the article you’re now reading, I thought that if I typed with the orthosis off my hand – even for just a few minutes at a time, I wouldn’t have any wrist pain. Nope; I was wrong. Renzo's Carpal Tunnel Syndrome (CTS) IssueWithin minutes of typing without the orthosis, my wrist starting tingling again. If you’ve never had carpal tunnel syndrome (CTS), try to imagine being stung by several sharp needles hitting your skin in the same area, in rapid succession, several hundred times at the same time. It’s like the nerves in your wrist are being compressed or pinched. Another way to understand the CTS pain, is the pain you might remember feeling if you’ve ever been stung either by a bee (or worse) by a hornet (the sting of the latter insect I know all about because it happened to me – and that sting hurt like a bitch!) Anyway, those two instances are probably the best ways I know to describe the feeling of CTS. Click here to read more about carpal tunnel syndrome (CTS).

Like most dudes who masturbate, I grip my dry or pre-cum or lube-covered erect penis/dick/cock with my entire right hand, not just with my fingers. In fact, I don’t know any guys who jack off with just a couple of fingers, though I’m sure they’re out there somewhere. I respect the fact that every dude has a masturbation method that is ideal, and which happens to work for him. I don’t judge but I’d never let a guy jack me off with just a couple of fingers. Uh-uh. Nope. Fuck that. I’m gonna need a guy to grip my hard dick just firmly enough (not to hurt me) with his whole hand and show my schlong some interest and love!

Over the near fifty (50!) years that I’ve been masturbating – which I suppose would make me a “master masturbator” 😄 (and it will indeed be fifty years come 2019, seeing how I started jacking off when I was nine years old), occasionally I’ve done some left-handed masturbating. Using the left-hand method, I’ve rarely jacked off long enough to reach…uh, completion(“Completion” means that I didn’t jack off to the point of semen ejaculation and/or orgasm.) When my circumcised penis is erect/hard, it curves a bit up and to the left, making masturbating with my left hand not necessarily uncomfortable but somewhat difficult to do with pleasure, regardless of how I’m holding my dick. Naked twink reading gay fictionThus, the left-hand jack off method is something I rarely do. Whether I’m flipping through the internet/web, through a pornographic magazine, or reading some sexually erotic story in a book – all while using with my right hand, my left hand is rubbing my dick; getting it to grow from a “chub” (semi-erect/hard) to a “rod” (full erection) – and catching pre-cum in the process (which I always either eat or, if I’m using lube, smear it on the head and shaft of my dick, and/or I’ll smear it on my nipples). I’d do this until I was ready to let my right hand take over the jacking job.

(S/N: I just had a thought of how much I appreciate writing all this to guys who can relate and not to women. I doubt few women would or could understand, much less appreciate this article, and certainly none of them would be able to relate because, duh…they don’t have a penis! LOL! 😆)

Since I always masturbate with my right handmy left hand has other very important sexy jobs to do during my jack-off sessions, some if not all of which some male readers might be able to relate to since they do these things themselves. (S/N: In every jack session I am, and prefer to be, completely naked.) In no particular order, here’s what I use my left hand for, especially while my right hand is slick with precum or lube and massaging my hard cock. (An article about some of the products I like to use for jack-off lube is forthcoming.):

  • If I’m watching porn on my laptop computer, my left hand is used to move the computer mouse or type on the keyboard to click or flip though websites or webpages;
  • whether I’m looking at porn sites on my laptop computer – which I keep on my desk – my desk also serves as my masturbation stationam just lying in bed, or sitting on the floor, my left hand is used to …
  • cup and/or fondle my hairy balls;Renzo's lifelike 7inch dildo
  • rub my inner thigh areas to get some of my ball sack musk for me to sniff;
  • massage my taint (the perineum);
  • massage or finger-fuck my butt hole;
  • insert (in my ass) my penis-sharped dildo (or whatever other phallic-shaped object I’ve got lying around and want to use) and piston-fuck myself – either slow or fast, depending on how horny I am or have become after edging for a long time;
  • massage or pinch my nipples (after I’ve first licked the index finger and thumb of that handand, with the fingers of my left hand …
  • carry the sweet precum that’s been oozing from my dick (usually while edging), to either smear on my hard nipples, lips, or feed into my mouth.

As you can see fellas, I shamelessly like talking about how I make my masturbation sessions sensuous and sexy! And why the fuck shouldn’t I talk about how I give myself (and/or another dude) such deserving, sensuous, physical, and sexual pleasure?Flyin' Solo-38 Masturbation is natural. It is also a very safe, healthy, fun, and pleasurable act of being human. Life is too short for a man not to have an orgasm whenever and as often as he can or want to have. This is true regardless of whether that man has or doesn’t have a steady or occasional partner with whom he can have sex. And, while that man is on the way to giving himself (and/or his partner) that orgasm, there’s no reason for him not to build for himself (and/or his male partner) an intense, longer-lasting orgasm.

Finally, rarely do I ever do what I like to call, the jack off quickie. I prefer to save such quickies for when I’m exceptionally horny and happened to be someplace (like at my job for instance) where I can’t leave anytime soon or can’t get naked to masturbate. In such instances, I might wait until I get home to “take care of business“, or I’d go to either one of the following places to jack off:
– the men’s restroom (choosing the last or next to the last stall – if it’s clean) or to a unisex restroom (which is best because you can lock the door behind you);
– a storage room, maintenance closet, or ante-room;
– an empty, seldom used office or room;
or better yet (because there’s a better degree of privacy)
     – to my car – if parked nearby, if the weather is fine, and outside temperature is of a comfortable degree.

Flyin' Solo-73Jack-off quickies are okay when a guy’s horniness begins to overwhelm him. However, if that guy wants to truly take his time to edge his dick, and to feel/caress his balls, play with his taint/perineum, and ass hole, and/or touch every erogenous zone (aka e-zones) that he can reach and feel on his naked body – all without interruption or nearby eavesdroppers, then he’ll need all of his will power to refrain from the temptation of doing a jack off quickie and wait until he’s safely home or to his room (if he has roommates); any place where there’s [more] privacy for him to peacefully get erotically and sexually tuned into himself as he masturbates.

I’ve got more to share in this Masculine Perspectives series on male masturbation coming in future blog articles. Stay tuned!

– Renzo

That Moment When…

… you neglected to lube up, thinking his hungry, young virgin ass was gonna be so-o-o-o easy to stick your dick into. And being the uh…cocky top that you are, it was a sure bet that it would be you who would be breaking him in! Uh-huh. Sure.
Now you’re the one with the broke dick because you couldn’t penetrate that ass as easy as you thought. Staggering in pain, you can’t help but take one last look at that fyne, sweet, smooth, tight, young virgin ass; one that’s still intact; ready to be busted by the dick of some other dude…one who won’t neglect to lube up.
Talk about missed opportunities.
 Damn.
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Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Pt. 3 of 3)

NOTE: This is Part 3 of a 3-part series. [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-3]
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Glory Holes: The Risks of Contracting a STI/STD –

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Simply because a guy’s mouth, tongue, penis, and/or whole ass and anus or butthole appear clean, that doesn’t necessarily mean nor is there any guarantee, that any of those body parts are in fact clean or that they are disease, virus, or infection-free. This is especially true if the owner of those body parts (and any sex toys which may have been used) has been sitting on a public restroom toilet or on the toilet at an interstate expressway rest stop. This truth also applies if that man has recently engaged in either oral, anal, and/or vaginal sex with an anonymous person then after the sex act, may or may not have had the thought to rinse away with soap and water or wipe with an anti-bacteria cloth or towel, all of the saliva, semen and/or vaginal residue fluids, and/or fecal matter (if any) off his dick, from his ass hole, and/or from his mouth after engaging in acts of penetrative sex.

The risk of contracting or transmitting STIs (sexually transmitted infections) is minimized or reduced when condoms are used but is not necessarily eliminated. A disclaimer reflecting condom effectiveness is found clearly printed on most if not all major brand condom package boxes, usually near the set of instructions for use. In short, condoms are limited in their STI protection (and pregnancy prevention) factor. They do not [as yet] offer complete, one hundred percent effective protection against contracting or transmitting a STI.

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Still, using a condom will offer some if not more protection against contracting or transmitting a STI than to use no condom protection at all when having any form of penetrative (e.g., oral, anal, vaginal) sex.

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GET TESTED!
While a STI and a STD (sexually transmitted diseases) are similar, they are not the same thing. A STI starts out as infections – with the infected person possibly showing no symptoms of the virus, which may last for any length of time and which can later progress into disease, thus becoming a STD. For years the office of the U.S. Surgeon General, the Center for Disease Control (CDC), the World Health Organization (WHO), and many other health officials have consistently stressed the need for sexually active people to get themselves tested – and to get tested regularly – for STIs and STDs.

Remember that HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) is also a STI which, if left untreated and unmonitored by a physician, can progress into the STD known as AIDS (acquired  immunodeficiency syndrome). Get Tested (2)_Status is EverythingIf a HIV-infected person does not get tested for the virus then he or she has the potential to transmit that virus on to someone else who is not infected with HIV. Conversely, if a sexually active person knows or is highly confident that his/her body is clear of HIV and other STIs before engaging in sex, yet that person either neglects or refuses to wear a condom or does not make that requirement of their partner (whose sexual history and/or HIV/STI status is unknown) then after having sex, fails to get him/herself tested for HIV and other STIs, then it is possible that person may have contracted a STI. It’s also possible that person may have unknowingly transmitted a STI to their partner.

The short yet clearly blunt and direct public service message which says GET TESTED” is one of encouragement for the health benefit of not only sexually active people but also for the health benefit of general society itself. The message “GET TESTED” is usually followed with a short paragraph explaining why sexually active people should get tested for STIs. Get Tested (1)_Carry onThe message “GET TESTED” is also aimed at formerly sexually active people; persons who for some recent medical and/or physical reason are no longer able to engage in partner sex or who may have recently decided to become celibate or have chosen celibacy. The message “GET TESTED” is also aimed at those persons who have not had partner sex in a period ranging anywhere from a few weeks to several months, to within the last few or more years. And the message “GET TESTED” is also aimed at male or female victims of rape – although many victims of rape who visit a hospital or medical facility after being raped are normally tested for HIV and other STIs and STDs.

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This concludes the 3-part series.

Links to Part 1 and Part 2:
– Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 1) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-1]
 Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 2) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-2]

– Renzo

Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Pt. 2 of 3)

NOTE: This is Part 2 of a 3-part series. [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-2]
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Glory Holes: Used by Voyeurs (spies); Aren’t All Holes in a Wall –
It’s not talked about much – and probably because it doesn’t seem as sexy to some people, but a glory hole is also a place for and is often used by people who like to watch or spy on the person or other people who are on other side of the hole. Such people are called voyeurs. Voyeurs may be male or female. They can be anyone who is old enough to be left alone and unsupervised out in the world (e.g., anyone over the age of 10). Voyeurs come from all races and ethnic groups, from all nationalities, and from a variety of economic, political, religious, academic, vocational, technological, social, and moral backgrounds. I would estimate that everyone either knowingly or unknowingly has met or may perhaps be related to at least one person who either is an active voyeur or who has voyeuristic tendencies. Some voyeurs are dangerous while others not so much or are completely harmless.

For voyeurs to be successful in what they do, that person simply needs to be smart, savvy, cunning, and intelligent enough not to get seen or caught in the act of spying on another person or group of people. Voyeurs may be anyone who has and who uses his or her own [smart] cellphone camera (or other portable electronic device having a built-in camera) and/or has access to and the expertise to install and use tiny camera devices. The voyeur with such technical skills will plant those camera devices in strategic locations of their choice for the specific purpose of taking photos and/or videos of their target(s). That person may use their equipment to provide either a live stream or delayed broadcast of the footage he or she takes. A later upload of that footage may be directed either back to the voyeur’s home location and/or directly to an internet channel (such as Facebook and YouTube, for example) which allows for live or recorded broadcast of video footage.

With the aid of tiny cameras, video equipment, and a stationary internet connection, WiFi, or a mobile hotspot (such as that which smartphones provide), voyeurs can operate just about anywhere without their actual physical presence being in or near the location of their selected station or post of observation. In short, this means a voyeur doesn’t have to be perched or hiding somewhere nearby but may actually be many miles away. The usual voyeur “hang out” or spy stations often include places like: public restrooms, storage and maintenance closets, behind/on the other side of a faux (i.e. false, artificial) wall or partition, on the other side of any two-way wall mirror, and above drop or faux ceilings. Ever changing, more affordable, and easily accessible technology has allowed Gloryhole_PRSex (17) voyeur-4voyeurs to buy and hide cameras not only in restrooms and department store dressing rooms, but also in elevators, seldom-used stairwell fire escape areas, indoor and outdoor parking lots/garage areas, in obscure alleyways, on trees, sign posts, telephones in the park, even in private homes (particularly if the person setting up the camera is a guest, a visiting workman, or worse, an intruder). Such are just some of the places where voyeuristic people might want to spy on someone or perhaps on two or more people. Unsuspecting people can never know where a camera or videographic device might be positioned or located.

Many voyeurs have (what I and some others might consider as odd or abnormal) certain interests and/or fetishes. This is one of the reasons why they are able and willing to do what they do. If their motives are driven by a sexual interest and/or fetish, the voyeur may decide to observe another person perform one or more of the following intimate activities; urinate (take a piss), defecate (take a shit), masturbate, and/or have sex with or perform a sexual act with another person or with two or more people. The voyeur who chooses to spy on such activities usually does so for sexual gratification. That person will likely fondle him or herself or outright masturbate to whatever he or she sees happening in real time through the glory hole/crack or narrow opening. They may choose to masturbate later when he/she reviews the still-photo or recorded video footage taken. There are voyeurs who target specific people for the purpose of using their photos and/or videos in an extortion (blackmail) scheme such as public embarrassment and/or ransom.

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As discussed, many glory holes are indeed found in restroom stall divider walls or partitions. A glory hole doesn’t necessarily have to be a hole per se of a round design or circle. They may be a horizontal or vertical jagged crack or a neatly thin narrow space opening; the latter being normally found between or on the edge of some faux wall panels or in closets and cabinet door jams. Those thin narrow spaces or cracks are allowed there by builder design for expansion and stress purposes and for ease of opening and closing action of the cabinet or door.

If at this point you feel queasy or uncomfortable about being spied upon, then good! That’s your inner self reminding you to be aware of whatever it is you do, might choose to do, or are planning on doing which may be of a personally intimate nature while situated in a public space or area. You just never know who might be watching!

And now, this humorous break…

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This 3-part series continues and concludes here:
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 3) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-3]
… and begins here:
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 1) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-1]

– Renzo

Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Pt. 1 of 3)

NOTE: This is Part 1 of a 3-part series. [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-1]

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Recently, my blogging friend Roger P. posted an article on his blog “From Top 2 Bottom Blog” discussing the subject of glory holes. (Click Glory Holes! to read Roger’s article.) At the same time I, too had been in the middle of writing an article on that same subject. This is that 3-part article.
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The word “glory hole” (sometimes spelled “gloryhole”) is a sexual slang word. It refers to a hole found or intentionally made in a wall, partition, closet door, curtain, or faux (i.e. false, artificial)ceiling or ceiling tile specifically for the purpose of either spying on someone (an act of voyeurism) engaging in sexual activity such as masturbation, fellatio (oral sex), anal copulation, and/or anilingus (aka ass licking/“ass eating”) with someone (usually men)who is on the other side of the hole in the wall, partition, closet door, or ceiling. Glory holes are often found in men’s public lavatory/restrooms stalls, and in a number of remaining adult video arcade booths.

Gloryholephobia 
I see little to practically nothing “glorious” about a gloryhole. I have long known and understood the history of and the reasons why glory holes existed and still exist. I’ve seen my share of them in various parts of the U.S. where I either lived or traveled, as well as in other parts of the world where I’ve travelled. I’ve also seen gloryholes in some male restrooms in college buildings, in a few male restrooms on military bases, and on a few [U.S. Navy] ships where I was either stationed or had visited. I’ve also seen gloryholes in the restrooms of several gay clubs (back in the late 1970s and in the 1980s), and in a number of adult bookstores which had “private” video booths in the back of the store during that era.

I fear and have always feared using glory holes. I have never wanted and was never brave enough to stick beloved penis/dick/cock through one. Gloryhole_PRSex (3)I would never pull my anus/butthole up against a glory hole to have it licked or fucked. You see, I have what I’d call “gloryholephobia”. Now, I’m not sure if either the word “gloryholephobia” or the phobia type itself exists or whether it’s used anywhere. As far as I know, I may have just created it! I define gloryholephobia as: the fear of what might happen to my beloved penis if I ever stuck it through any hole without knowing who or what kind of person – or thing – was on the other side of said hole. I simply fear having my one and only beautiful, precious, well-serving, pleasuring-giving & receiving cock infected with some kind of virus or disease, of having it bitten or chopped off by someone’s strong jaws and sharp teeth, or of having it amputated by an ax, machete, or sharp blade – or perhaps by some device resembling some kind of guillotine that’s made exclusively for chopping off penises. I also fear what might happen to my anus/butthole if I were to stick up against some mystery hole to have it licked and/or fucked. I realize this all sounds crazy and perhaps a bit funny to some readers but it isn’t to me; and how I feel is all that matters. I have held such fears ever since I first learned of glory holes then first saw one as a young teen. I’ll never forget asking myself at the time, “Who would dare take a chance and stick their dick through a hole like that?” Ghole_PRSex_GIF (2) editedAnyway, forty-five years is a long time to have such a fear … that is, to have “gloryholephobia”; but hey; my penis is still attached to me, is still working quite well, and has never once been infected by any person nor by any virus. My anus/butt hole has always been healthy, intact (and tight) too simply because I am always aware of who or what gets near it and who or what is inserted inside of it. Furthermore, I simply do not ever want my beloved cock touched, sucked (nor my ass fucked) by a stranger; someone whose face, mouth, and teeth I haven’t first seen and have determined as being “okay” for me to insert my dick in or through. And I’ve never been the kind of person who has been so desperate as to want his anus/butthole licked/eaten and/or fucked by a stranger. I’ll pass on all of that, thank-you!

As far as I’m concerned (and I remind readers that this is strictly my opinion), I find the very idea of a man sticking his [supposedly] beloved, precious erect or flaccid penis/dick/cock through any mysterious hole – with the expectation of getting it sucked by anonymous male or female person or for that penis to fuck the mouth, vagina, anus/butthole of an anonymous person on the other side of that hole, as being potentially dangerous. I find it risky and dangerous health-wise and I find that act an idiotic thing to do. The same potential risks of danger to health and/or physical self applies to any man who sticks his anus/butthole up against a hole in a partition or wall, or (if the partition is high enough off the floor) below that partition with the expectation of getting his asshole licked by a tongue (a sex act knownas ‘anilingus’ or “ass eating”) and/or fucked by a penis (or some other object). Regardless of whether the participant is playing the role of the giver or the role of the receiverof such sexual favors, that man would have to at least hope (or would have stupidly assumed) that either the anonymous cock or anonymous tongue he is physically encountering isn’t dirty or bleeding, or is diseased, infected or contaminated in some way.

Gloryholephobia: Two Exceptions –
First Exception:
My gloryholephobia would not extend to penises which are stuck through my side of the glory hole. All I might be willing to do in such cases is touch the guy’s dick and jerk it off (masturbate the penis). However, I would make it very clear to that guy that I have no intention of ever putting my tongue or lips on his dick (which means that I would not suck it; I have that much self-control over my lust.) That man can then decide what he wants to do from that point, although I doubt he’d want to keep his dick stuck through the hole after hearing my conditions.

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Second Exception: My gloryholephobia also would not extend to someone whom I happen to know – and like – such as a fuck buddy or an open-minded straight (heterosexual) friend of mine who occasionally has sex with men. That person and I would both have to want and decide to do the “glory hole thing” simply for kicks; that is, with just the two of us jerking or sucking off each other’s dick. Whether through a glory hole or under the toilet stall partition, I would never engage in anilingus nor in anal sex with a guy – not even with my fuck buddy or straight friend. Again, any other sexual activity in a restroom would be between me and my fuck buddy or friend and never with a stranger.

Public Restroom Sex –
While I wouldn’t engage in glory hole sex, I am not implying that I’ve never had public restroom sex of some kind – which would include masturbation. Solo masturbation is a sexual act since it considered sex with one’s self. And so yes, I have indeed masturbated – and left my DNA (e.g. semen/cum residue), in a number of public restrooms more times and in more places than I can or even care to remember. I’m sure just about every sexually healthy male has masturbated in a public restroom at least once in his life. (Read the Masculine Perspectives article “Doing a Nasty Thing in the Men’s Room” [Dick Spit No. 2017-03])

Aside from solo and/or partner masturbation in a public restroom, I am not into having any anonymous nor “mystery suck and/or fuck” sex in those places, particularly not the kind of sex offered by some stranger through a glory hole. If you haven’t yet guess, I – or rather my dick and asshole, avoid gloryholes. My public restroom sexual experiences has only been limited to sexual foreplay; that is, kissing and feeling it upmen whom I either had met and talked with for a while, or with men whom I already knew and with whom I were already friends and/or fuck buddies. Gloryhole_PRSex (11) restrm makeout (GIF)Such foreplay was with guys (and would still be with guys) whose whole physical body I can see, happened to like, and would find attractive. I’d want to be able to touch and maybe even smell the scent of that man’s body. While standing at a few trough urinals still found in some pubs and bars in the U.S. and in other countries), I have kissed, jacked off (masturbated) and even held and “massaged” the pissing dick of some men. (I love the feel of a guy’s flaccid penis getting hard/erect in my hand as I held it.) The sexual foreplay in which I participated always led to that guy and I heading outside, either to the back of the building we were in, or to his car or mine. We might continue the sexual foreplay or get into having all-out sex. Better (and safer) yet, we’d force ourselves to stop messing around so that we can drive to his place or mine to pick up where we left off.

Public Restroom Particular –
I have always been particular of where I have sex. And while normally I would never have anonymous sex in a public restroom, I have the exceptions noted earlier. If the dude is someone I know then there are things I’d have to consider before agreeing to have sex of any kind in a public restroom. For example, I won’t ever mess around with any guy who just got done defecating (taking a shit) or puking up his guts (vomiting). I won’t mess around in a men’s restroom that has the odor of piss or shit, no matter how faint or strong that odor is. I won’t mess around in any warm or humid restroom, nor in restrooms having poor ventilation. I prefer any restroom be cool in temperature, and have a couple of windows or other means of ventilation.

My ideal men’s [public] restroom is always clean, a bit cool temperature-wise, and looks and smells very nice. Such places do exist. Such restrooms are found in many fine hotels, large corporate buildings, and federal government buildings. I’ve never seen any of those restrooms have glory holes, although a number of them have a certain amount of space between the bottom of the toilet stall partition and the floor. Gloryhole_PRSex (7)The space allows just enough room for a guy to squat down, stick his dick under the partition, and have the guy on the other side reach down to jack him off, suck him off, or be ass fucked. In such places I’d say I’m more of a “jack-him-off-under-the-partition” kind of guy; one who’d prefer – and insist to that dude on the other side (whom I would first have to know) that we make out and/or suck dick in the last stall in that restroom; the larger area stall that’s reserved for disabled and wheel-chaired users. A number of men’s restroom in large corporate and federal government buildings have at least two such stalls.

Once again to be clear, as far as all-out sex in any restroom is concerned I do not engage and choose not to engage in public restroom oral, anal, nor vaginal sex with anonymous people…strangers. Frankly, I heavily frown upon it. I simply have personal health and hygiene concerns and reasons for that. I would never kneel, squat, nor lay down on some nasty, piss, cum, spit and/or fecal matter covered or stained restroom floor simply to put my dick under the partition. Masturbatory sex – that is, jacking/jerking off another man (or participating in a mutual masturbation/jack off session with that man) would be the only kind of public restroom sex in which I would engage with an anonymous person.
(S/N: Though I’m bisexual, I often don’t want females jacking me off because it always takes them too long to get me to cum!)

If you haven’t yet realized it, I tend to be judgmental of those persons who initiate and/or engage in public restroom or interstate expressway rest stop anonymous sex. Mind you, I am not against the act of sex itself. No. I am simply against any and all intentionally careless, reckless, and potentially dangerous practices of sex. I feel this way because for decades, it’s been well documented as fact that anonymous partner sex acts have the great potential of either one or all of the participants transmitting or contracting venereal infections and/or diseases (aka sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or sexual transmitted diseases (STDs)). I simply am not down with that sort of thing.

And now, this humorous break…

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This 3-part series continues here…
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 2) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-2]
… and concludes here…
Glory Holes & Public Restroom Sex (Part 3) [Dick Spit No. 2018-03-3]

– Renzo